Brunel Manor: Session 4—20 May 2018

10:05     Topic 1. Matthew 11Open Link in New Window: 28 to 30.

“Come to me all you who are weary and burdened. I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden light.”

DISCUSSION – How can we support others so that they find the “rest” promised by the Lord?

  • David’s talks highlighted the need to come to Jesus and not being burdened by rules.
  • Are organisations too keen to make rules and structures?
  • An over emphasis on “process”.
  • What is “rest”? Our definition is different from the worlds.

 

  • Our souls need to find rest.
  • Micah walking humbly with your God – don’t take yourself too seriously, but take God seriously.
  • Reignited and reheated as coals through the church.
  • How do we as a group of Christians help non-Christians?
    • Rest – inner peace of mind.
    • Put burdens on God and pray.
    • We all have different roles.
  • Thoughtful, reflective people may spend more time waiting for God.

 

  • Have found Christianity’s rules and promises like a raft on an ocean.
  • House groups and Pastorates help, though in the past they have been too big.
  • It takes time to build relationships and trust.
  • We only have a short time at church; we have more time at work.

 

  • The easiness of the Lord’s “yoke” varies with time and circumstances.
  • A supportive church and close Christians.
  • Friends and mentors are very helpful both for younger Christians and later in life, throughout life.
  • There is a danger of overburdening church members. With church jobs.
  • Need for the power of the Holy Spirit.

 

  • Changed thinking – let yourself be guided.
  • God will see things through for us.
  • A group discussion – leaving feeling, peace and rest. PGI Friday.
  • Forward and fellowship – led to prayer and going out changed.
  • This is what gives us rest.
  • Being honest about where we are.
  • For others to be prepared to listen properly.
  • To know you have been heard is really important.
  • Not keeny handed teaching.
  • Listen to people – let them ask anything.
  • Meet them where they are.
  • Be as a fellow traveller.
  • Do not impose a particular rule or way.

10:15     Topic 2. John 20Open Link in New Window: 21 & 22.

”Again Jesus said,” Peace be with you. As the father has sent me, I am sending you.” With that he breathed on them and said, “Receive the Holy Spirit”.

DISCUSSION – How can we help each other to be a Christian presence on each other’s “front line”?

  • Share our frontlines.
  • Pray for each other’s frontline or those in a particular sector.
  • Local “missionary chart”.
  • Help those in a process of change to recognise their new frontlines.

 

  • Work open plan.
  • Be “nice” people – use language that is calm, to lead, behave in a way that is different, share similar reflections.
  • Map who shares similar front lines – to share ideas and experiences.
  • To pray before meetings and phone calls – for the Holy Spirit to go before you.
  • Willingness for us all to be prepared to pray for one another at church – and not feel embarrassed. So it becomes the norm.
  • Instant prayer.
  • How do we hold people in our prayers? To keep praying and following up.
  • Trust – to develop a relationship. One of honesty, vulnerability, with no preference.

 

  • Avoid work gossip.
  • Being someone who work colleagues consult about problems, etc. in their lives – but not immediately insisting they need to turn to Jesus.
  • When do you say “You need Jesus in your life”? Life the example David Lawrence gave of “Margot”.
  • Are there techniques that could be suggested and training offered?
  • Sensitivity and empathy are essential.
  • Ask Jesus to give us the right words.
  • Be trustworthy and confidential.
  • We all have different needs and therefore should have different approaches.
  • Balance what we think we can do with what we really need.
  • Discernment to know when to talk (following on from first one, knowing people).
  • Take opportunities to show kindness.
  • Some people are evangelised by other faiths.

 

  • Support and encourage each other.
  • Smaller groups – bands need to be organic where accountability and encouragement are helpful.
  • Enable it to happen.
  • Don’t be negative – wait, grow unless we are positive. Being positive is infectious.
  • Knowing what others do so we can encourage each other. This time tomorrow approach.
  • Celebrate achievements with all staff
  • Don’t take each other for granted.
  • The reports back from PCC are very important.

 

  • Hearing real stories. Could we share more encouraging stories?
  • Awareness of the frontline and that it can be in many different situations.
  • The most immediate frontline for some of us is home.
  • Supporting each other to stand up for issues of justice.
  • More prayer for each other in our specific roles in work and for people at work.

10:25     Topic 3. Luke 11Open Link in New Window: 9 to 13.

“So I say to you, ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives; the one who seeks, finds; and the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him?”

DISCUSSION – How do we help each other to become people who pray, fast and read?

  • How do we receive the Holy Spirit? That we ask, it may not be a big thing – not necessarily the same experience as someone else.
  • Easy to feel peer pressure to be “a certain way”.
  • Believe and be changed by receiving the Holy Spirit.
  • To pray and know that He is with you and will guide and lead you into situations.
  • You just have to go out and “be” and not think what you “should” be doing.
  • Encouragement of gifts – I really liked the way you spoke to that person, etc.
  • We are more likely to recognise our gifts or us them if we speak to one another.
  • Barnabas was an encourager and enabler.
  • Wonderful to see so many people involved in this session, reading, interviews, etc.
  • Saturday evening was a real example of friendship and fellowship. Being taken out of our comfort zone but willing and feeling “safe”. Trust in one another and the Holy Spirit.

 

  • Knowing that I am in dwelt by the Holy Spirit as I don’t know what to do myself.
  • Don’t do fasting very much in our church.
  • Once you have the “yoke” you are able to carry things. The yoke fits. Jesus gives you the ability to carry things.
  • Small prayer meetings where people can open up.

 

  • St Matthew’s community and attending church on Sunday – personal help.
  • Look out for each other.
  • Encourage one another to know that God is with us all the time.
  • Reconnect in the week.
  • Praying together.
  • If anyone is seeking they are half way there.
  • Constantly refining Christianity for you.
  • Youth leaders, Christian school – get people involved all the time.
  • Children’s band
  • Groups to belong to and be involved creating opportunities to lead.
  • We need to ask for the Holy Spirit and believe He will come.
  • Embrace the father, Son and Holy Spirit.

 

  • Not one thing, a mixture.
  • Meditation, praying, bible reading, church service, communion, fasting, small groups.
  • Praying through the day as things happen.
  • Quiet times need discipline and are good, but not easy.
  • Walking and praying.
  • Driving and praying
  • Singing a hymn by yourself in the car.
  • Listening to an audio bible. Recommend the one by David Suchet.
  • Read books that help you go deeper with God.
  • The feeds on Facebook and twitter are very helpful.

10:35     Topic 4. Hebrews 10Open Link in New Window: 24 & 25.

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another –m and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

DISCUSSION – How can we offer support for people in their everyday Christian life?

  • Think of your early times as a Christian but later do we become less receptive or things less accessible?
  • Invite and approach people.
  • Be inclusive.
  • Sometimes “forced” involvement helps break barriers and makes us more relaxed.
  • Retreats and weekends away are very helpful.

 

  • Get to know people and pray both with them and for them.
  • Supported people on their Christian journey and encourage them.
  • Checking in with people – how is it going?
  • It is hard when your spouse is not a Christian. It can be very lonely. Need church support.
  • “Bands”. (Small groups a la David Lawrence).
  • A WhatsApp group for the “Bands” group.

 

  • Welcome people in a friendly way.
  • Get to know them, build friendship and trust.
  • Pray for each other as and when it feels right.
  • Tell the folks back home that they were not forgotten and we want to share with them.

 

  • Showing people you care.
  • Someone who came late to Christ has helped understanding the Bible, someone who was seen as being on the periphery of the church.
  • Religious language and terminology can cut people off and out.

 

  • When someone who is struggling themselves keeps in contact and offers help, support and who listens.
  • Phone calls and texts.
  • Sacrificial support – a domino effect – ripples out to others.
  • To have fun, to enjoy each other’s company.
  • Welcoming, friendly – renew each other.
  • For new people, included as a family, helped in to other areas of help, “like” guides.